A Guide to Getting Along with your Roommate

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Moving in with a roommate is exciting and an adventure waiting to unfold. It is a big part of the college experience. Nonetheless, it will take effort from both parties for a smooth ride. Here are some tips to help you have a positive transition and memorable experience with your roommate.


You may become best friends or you may not; and that is okay.

The phrase “if we were all the same, the world would be a boring place,” which makes perfect sense here. It would be great if your roommate and you had the same exact interests but it may not work out that way. In the case that your roommate’s interests are the complete opposite, do not get frustrated or upset. Look at it from a positive angle with an open mind and make the most of it! If they like different things, take advantage of the opportunity to explore and learn about new hobbies, cultures, sports etc.

Creating Living Rules Together

Do not bring out the rule book the second you move in. Talk to them about your boundaries and rules no later than day 3. This is absolutely in everybody's best interest. 

For the most part, we grow up differently, with different cultures, traditions, and customs that may be new to your roommate and vice versa. Make time to sit down and have a conversation about it. Ask questions such as;

  • What do you think about having friends over?
  • What about guests staying overnight?
  • What time do we agree on minimizing the noise for studying and/or sleeping?
  • How do we alternate on cleaning?
  • Will studying or playing music out loud bother you?
  • Do you mind if people sit on your bed or your chair?
  • Would it be okay to borrow your (clothes, hair dryer, etc.)?
  • Are you okay with me using air freshener? 
The guidelines may change over time due to situations that may come up. Perhaps you or your roommate thought you would be okay with certain things, such as guests sitting on your bed but after you found chocolate smears over your pillow you revoked all rights.


Communicate, always!

Do not wait until you have so much accumulated in your chest that it makes you explode. As things come up that are resulting in an inconvenience, discuss them as responsible individuals. Do not turn it into an argument! Remember you are communicating your concerns and trying to resolve the situation. Yelling and purposefully pushing your roommate’s buttons will not resolve your concerns.  

Listen, listen, listen

It is safe to say most of us do not enjoy being called out on our wrongs despite how much we need to hear it. But you have to be conscious of your behavior affecting someone else. Be aware and sensitive. Your roommate may tell you there are things they do not appreciate about your behavior.  Try to understand and really listen. Being a good listener is not only going to help you with your new journey with this roommate, but with all of your relationships in the future.
Be aware that things are not always going to go your way. Try your best to be understanding and meet your roommate half way. Communicate, understand, and compromise.

Appliances and furniture cannot be physically split in half!
Having a mini-fridge, microwave, couch, rugs, lights, decorations, even a stapler and 3-whole-puncher come in very handy in your room. Since both of you will be sharing these you may think it is best to split the purchases half way. Although that is not a bad idea, it is better to split the costs in half but not for each individual purchase.
For example, a fridge, microwave, and coffee pot are needed. Have one person buy the microwave and coffee pot and the other person buy the fridge. Think about your needs after you move out of the dorms and try to keep the costs even.

By Yesenia Garcia






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